The Impact of Erectile Dysfunction on Marriage and Relationships

By emilyM

Sorry guys, I hate to be the bearer of bad news here but no matter how you look at it, erectile dysfunction doesn’t only affect you…but your partner too.

No matter if it begins in the early days of courtship or the golden years of marriage, impotence is that elephant in the room and well… certain men just act a bit crazy in response. Mood swings, feelings of rejection, even ogling other ladies, what’s up with that?

No one person in the relationship should have to go through it alone and it’s something that, with help, can be successfully treated… so don’t panic just yet. But if you are just hoping “the problem” will go away on its own, unfortunately it’s not very likely. Many times ED is not purely a psychological problem like many once believed, but a physical one that can be successfully treated.

I know couples who have amazing stories of the things they have overcome in their relationships and marriages and I am a believer that any disagreement can be resolved… but when it comes to problems in the bedroom… well it seems problems begin sprouting up elsewhere in the relationship too. Fortunately, unlike so many problems in relationships, there is a relatively easy solution!

Here are a few recent stories that have popped up on the Web and really reinforce the need for first gaining the support you need from your significant other and then together seeking the help of a physician, because chances are, you would really like to have a healthier sex life too, right?

Example 1:
The frustration of an older women married to a husband suffering from erectile dysfunction (and consequently acting out in the way many men often do in response) drove her to write into the advice columnist at the Winnipeg Free Press:

“DEAR MISS LONELYHEARTS: My husband is impotent and has started obviously ogling women at bingo right in front of me. I date it back to when his sexual apparatus stopped working. I feel like telling the women he’s putting up a front, pardon the pun. — So Angry! North End”

to which she replies…

“Dear Angry: Your problem is with his behaviour, not with the women he ogles. Say something like: “I know why you started doing this and I’m asking you to stop as I feel hurt and humiliated when you do. Now, what can we do to regain a sex life, even if it can’t include potency pills or intercourse?” There are lots of other things you can do, and you need to tell him clearly you would enjoy them.”

Example #2
The next example comes from The Standard, a website from Nairobi, Kenya.

The article talks about a husband who refused to “consummate” the marriage with his new wife in the first few days of marriage, therefore driving the new bride to a court in Gucha that ruled she could divorce her husband on the grounds that the union was “null.” It also goes on to explain that erectile dysfunction or “impotence” which prohibits a couple from “consummating” their marriage is not a new thing.

Example# 3
Forum posts from women frustrated with their man’s unwillingness to seek help for ED.

No one likes having to confront a rather uncomfortable subject, but really there is nothing unmanly about asking for help. The sooner you address the problem, the sooner you can get your love life back on track!